As an RA or student staff member, one of your most important jobs is helping residents feel like they belong. While this might seem straightforward, the truth is, your efforts contribute to something much deeper: helping students define and experience “home” in the residence halls. But what does “home” mean in a college environment? The answer isn’t simple. For some students, the idea of “home” is comforting and familiar. For others, it might be complicated, even painful. As a student leader, understanding these different definitions can help you better support your peers and create a welcoming space for everyone on your floor or in your building.
1. Home as a Physical Space
When we first hear the word “home,” most of us probably picture a house or apartment. Maybe the place we grew up or where our family lives now. But for many students, especially in college, that physical space can feel very different depending on their circumstances. Some students may feel a deep connection to their family home. Going back there might mean comfort, traditions, and people they love. But others may have experienced instability growing up with frequent moves, housing insecurity, or family conflict. For them, “home” might not feel like a safe or stable place.
As an RA:
- Remember that not everyone sees “home” as positive or safe.
- Avoid assumptions about what “going home” or “missing home” means for each resident.
- Your floor might be one of the first places where a resident feels like they have control over their physical space. Encourage that sense of ownership and pride in their room and shared spaces.
2. Home as a Community
“Home” isn’t just a place. It’s also the people and relationships within it. In college, this idea becomes especially important. Most students are leaving behind long-time friends and routines to enter a new environment with new people. For some, building friendships in the residence hall helps recreate that feeling of “home.” Shared late-night chats, movie nights, and study sessions can become the foundation of a new support system. For others, the adjustment is harder. They might feel isolated or unsure of how to connect.
As an RA:
- Focus on building a strong sense of community. Even small actions (inviting someone to eat with you, checking in after a rough day, encouraging floor bonding) can have a big impact.
- Plan programs that are inclusive of different personalities and interests. Not everyone wants to come to a loud game night. Some residents might appreciate quiet crafting or discussion spaces.
- Watch for residents who seem disconnected and look for ways to gently pull them in without pressuring them.
3. Home as a Feeling
More than a place or a group of people, “home” is ultimately about how you feel. For many students, especially those transitioning to college for the first time, there’s a search for that feeling: safety, comfort, belonging. This is where your role becomes incredibly powerful. You may be the first person in a resident’s life to help create that feeling in a place that’s not their original home.
As an RA:
- Be approachable, consistent, and kind. Even just saying “hi” when passing someone in the hallway can build familiarity and comfort over time.
- Pay attention to emotional cues. If someone seems down, ask how they’re doing. Offer your time and support, or connect them with campus resources.
- Celebrate differences. When residents feel like they can be their authentic selves without judgment, they start to feel at home.
4. Home as Identity
For many students, “home” is also tied to culture, identity, and lived experiences. The way they decorate their room, the food they miss, the language they speak with family, all of these are part of what makes a place feel like home. Some students may be navigating identities that weren’t fully accepted in their family or hometown. For them, college is a chance to redefine home in ways that align with who they are.
As an RA:
- Encourage residents to express themselves in their space and in your community. This could be through bulletin boards, shared recipes, or cultural celebrations.
- Make space for diverse identities and viewpoints. Your floor should reflect and respect the variety of experiences your residents bring.
- Take time to learn. Ask respectful questions and educate yourself about different cultural norms, family structures, and traditions.
Why This Matters
Helping residents define “home” in their own way might be one of the most meaningful parts of your RA experience. You’re helping build not just a place to live, but a place to grow, heal, and thrive. When students feel “at home” in the residence hall, they’re more likely to succeed in college. They’re more engaged, more willing to seek help, and more comfortable being themselves. You, as a student leader, have a direct impact on making that happen. And in doing that, you’re building a stronger community for everyone, including yourself.
Adapted from The Many Ways of Defining “Home” in College and University Residence Life (Part 1)
